Many holidays are malevolent, made-up, money-making, malicious machinations of mental and emotional manipulation! Ba HUMBUG!
Last night I went to bed happy, slept well and woke up overcome with sadness. WHY? Then I was reminded it was Valentine’s Day. The special day of love, gifts and fun with family. I thought I was indifferent and unaffected by it, I didn’t think it mattered at all. I was wrong. Where was the reset button to make it a happy day vs one of depression and sadness. It’s sure a test of our sense of self worth.
Truth? My life is very nice. I am usually very happy, all is well in my world and I am very loved. It’s taken many years of dedicated effort to reach this place of peace and maintaining it remains one of my top priorities. Today I have another opportunity to resolve this in a timely manner. Ready, set, GO.
I googled the origin of Valentine’s Day. Interesting. If it’s of any interest to you, check it out. That info is what prompted me to shift gears and arrive at my first sentence of this post. If I can go along with the mass belief system and agreement of the significance of this day-of love, I can also CHANGE that belief. Right? It turns out to be so! In the span of less than an hour I was able to completely re-examine some of my beliefs. Am I less loved or cared about by not having a significant other, or my grandkids in my life, showering me with gifts today? Is who I am and what I contribute to the world negated because my life doesn’t include hearts, flowers or boxes of chocolates on THIS one particular day?
An unexpected gift on this day-of-love has arrived and is thrilling. It goes like this: MY world, life, value and reality are absolutely fine exactly the way they are, right now. I have the CHOICE of how I want to feel. Years ago this process could have taken days or weeks; today it took an HOUR. It truly is a beautiful gift to myself to realize I can be aware of my thoughts and emotions and adjust them when necessary. That option is always available! Wow.
This day has gone from depressing to delightful with just a quick adjustment of perception. Again, I choose HAPPY and am willing to take the steps to be there. Now, the day is beautiful again, cool desert temperatures to bask in, a sweet friend to spend the afternoon with and a beautiful life to live. WHAT AMAZING PROGRESS.
Holiday, schmol-iday. hahaha Google THAT. haha My intention is to remember to apply this lesson to the next holiday or special day that would normally make me sad. My granddaughter once made up a song when she was little and we had so much fun singing it together. Little did I know how significant that silly song would be in my life today!
“DON’T BE SAD ~ BE GLAD…” la-la-la ... Composed years ago by one sweet granddaughter who I love with all my heart, on Valentine’s Day, and every other day too!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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